Comments on: What Nobody Says About Bringing Second Baby Home (or) The Greatest Gift You Can Ever Give A Child

By: Katie

Katie — Fri, 14 Jun 2013 04:11:02 +0000

My daughters are 14 months apart. I had the hardest time during my pregnancy with daughter 2 because I felt so guilty for my first daughters "babyhood" to be gone so quickly! But the day Natalie was born and I saw Hailey see her and say "baby, mommy, baby" and point to her sister, they became more than baby 1 and 2, and more Hailey and Natalie! They were their own person and I loved both of them separately, but equally! The only thing I am regretful about is that I did not enjoy my second(and last) pregnancy as much as I should have!

By: Sheena

Sheena — Sat, 20 Apr 2013 12:57:01 +0000

This is so true! My son was 3 when he became a big brother and I felt soooo overwhelmed. I didn't have as much family support the 2nd time around, and I had a really tough time adjusting. We also had problems breastfeeding, (something I didn't do the first time around). I asked the exact same question "Why didn't anybody tell me it was going to be this hard?" to anyone who would listen. Someone could've prepared me! But she's 2 and he's 5 and we have adjusted to life with two…now if we can figure out how to adjust to the constant fighting that's beginning to appear…..

By: Beth

Beth — Sat, 13 Apr 2013 05:32:22 +0000

How has it been? My son is four, and I’m expecting my second soon

By: stacy

stacy — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 22:55:35 +0000

Kate, thank you for sharing something so personal. I hope every person who reads this shares it with someone who is expecting or has more than one child. So often we suffer in silence not realizing that many others have walked the same path.

By: kelly c

kelly c — Sat, 30 Mar 2013 14:19:34 +0000

THANK YOU. I agree

By: kelly c

kelly c — Sat, 30 Mar 2013 14:15:16 +0000

THANK YOU. I have a 4 year old. And I am not sure if I want another. But I hear it from people daily. You can't do that to your son. What about when you are older, when you die. Seriously. I want to give my son the world. He will have friends and family. As in your case, sometimes people don't have a choice. Why in the world would you tell someone, a sibling is the geatest gift? So again thank you for sticking up for us only-child parents

By: Mary

Mary — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 00:11:34 +0000

So appreciate you being so honest about your own experience. Mine was VERY different and not something that caused me concern at all – but that may be because my only memories of siblings are good ones. I have three children spaced out at 18mo apart and two years apart. All three boys are very good friends and did well as infants and toddlers, showing little jealousy. Any child getting undivided attention at all times is not being mentally or emotionally prepared for real life and future relationships. Everyone needs to learn to self soothe at times and be ok spending some time alone or outside of the lime light.

By: FTM103112

FTM103112 — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 18:53:43 +0000

Thank you for sharing this. I'm an "emotional faucet", a FTM, and I've struggled a lot with the "why didn't anybody tell me this would be so hard?!" So thank you for telling us! =) I'm book-marking this for when I (hopefully) bring home the 2nd kid. Cuz I want to (though I don't know how I'd handle it if I can't even handle the one I have very well!). =(

By: Tina

Tina — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 02:40:53 +0000

This is so true and good advice. I wish I would have read it before I had my second. Still good to read and feel not so alone as we are just 2 month into it.

By: Temperance

Temperance — Wed, 20 Mar 2013 01:58:17 +0000

Its patience, and giving both children the same attention. Mothers now a days find the TV as a babysitter, and basically put the oldest child aside. THIS WILL MAKE YOUR CHILD THROW FITS BECAUSE HE/SHE IS LOOKING FOR ATTENTION. (YOUR ATTENTION) Which the only way it see’s the baby getting attention is by screaming/crying.
When honestly you can put the baby down for naps. They sleep ALOT especially in the beginning. During and between feedings is time for your lovable first baby. Cuddle him or her, play with them make them your center of attention. Also when the tiny one wakes allow them to help YOU. Get them involved let them be the big brother or sister.

I’m sorry I’m just tired of hearing people ranting about how horrible their kids are. Makes me wonder how well their parenting really lacks. Granted we all get tired and worn down. But come on try a little. I get it making the baby was easy, carrying wasn’t so easy for some but raising a child is a job itself but common sense people we were all young once. I’ll stop my rant I’m sorry if I offended anyone.

Idk I hope I helped someone out also and I’m a single mom of 4. And everyday was hard and is rough and I love and cherish everyone of my babies and wouldn’t take back any tantrum or cry for me up for the world. Little things like those I hope my memory holds those little things forever.
Sorry again but really get your kiddos involved in everything you do. I’m not the best mom but I know my kiddos love me all the same. And my kids have impressed me by how they’ve grown and surprise me each and everyday.